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Dr. Kenney’s Friday 5 Spot – August 25th

Dr. Kenney’s Friday 5 Spot

On Fridays I like to share experiences I’ve had during the week with patients and in my personal life that I’ve found significant.  I like to share them in hopes that you might find value in them and have something resonate with you in your life.  

A recent reminder of an important concept.  One of my sons has been frustrated with his role on a new football team.  Much of what he’s feeling is justified and we discussed the specifics why.  However, after we did so, I told him it was time to stop worrying about what we couldn’t control and start affecting what we could.  A phrase I love to illustrate this is “chop wood and carry water.”  This is a way of saying we must pursue the small but challenging tasks and habits each day that will lead to success.  In this instance, my son and I came up with workouts, drills, practice habits, and a mindset that would translate into even better on-field performance and hopefully fulfilling the roles he desires. 

There will always be situations we feel are unjust or unfair.  Spending too long complaining about them will only cause us to waste our energy and feel worse.  Instead, our best course of action is to do what we can to improve, get stronger, and become ready when our opportunity arises.  When you encounter a situation you don’t like or think is unfair, don’t whine about it; start chopping wood and carrying water.

A great question I was asked.  “What percentage of people would you consider to be strong and capable?”  I was asked this earlier in the week and found it interesting.  My definition of strength would involve a combination of mental, physical, and emotional characteristics.  In other words, it’s not about having the biggest muscles or the ability to win a fight, it’s a combination of attributes that combine to make someone better able to endure challenges and hardships. 

Having said this, I believe that 100% of people possess the ability to be strong and yet only about 20% of people do.  Certainly, no one sets out to become weak or incapable, but it can happen to anyone if we aren’t careful.  Following the crowd, lack of responsibility, not challenging ourselves, constant complaining, bad relationships, poor physical and nutritional decisions, and more are all common causes of weakness in my opinion.  No one will be perfect but taking steps each day to develop mental, physical, and emotional strength will make us stronger and more resilient; and the world always needs more of those people.

Something I heard and loved.  This week I heard the phrase “Don’t think less of yourself but think of yourself less.”  I found this to be very succinct and pertinent advice for two reasons. 

First, it is vital to have a high sense of our own personal worth, high self-esteem, and to maintain lofty expectations for ourselves.  We must think well of ourselves and our abilities because it sets the tone for how we want to be treated and what we expect to attain.  Second, there is a tendency to spend too much time in our own heads over-thinking our circumstances and situations.  This creates stress and at times, isolation.  If we can focus on others, much of that stress and worry subsides naturally.  We grow stronger and deepen relationships with those around us while simultaneously decreasing our own worries.   

Something I believe.  At my office, we have been undergoing plumbing repairs for months.  It’s an older building and poor installations over the years caused accelerated breakdown of the pipes which have caused a series of problems.  Just as poor decisions in plumbing installation can cause issues, poor decisions in life do as well.

Poor behavior can take the form of bad habits, lack of drive, inconsistency, dishonesty, poor actions, lack of integrity, and more.  Initially, these often go unnoticed and become forgotten.  However, over time they cause a breakdown within our lives of self-esteem, trust, relationships, finances, and so on.  This can happen for years and then without warning, we wake up one day and realize things are a mess.  To avoid this, give thought to how you truly want to live your life.  Consider what is most important to you, then craft actions that honor that and allow you the chance to become successful.

Some quotes I love.

“Be careful what you tolerate, you are teaching people how to treat you.”

“Watch what a man does when he stumbles, and you’ll see his true character.  Good times are easy to navigate.  Challenging times require something more.  The challenging times are more revealing than the prosperous ones.” – Ryan Michler

“When you have something to say, silence is a lie.” – Jordan Peterson

“We must embrace pain and burn it as fuel for our journey.” – Kenji Miyazawa

Matt KenneyDr. Kenney’s Friday 5 Spot – August 25th
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Dr. Kenney’s Friday 5 Spot – August 16th

Dr. Kenney’s Friday 5 Spot

On Fridays I like to share experiences I’ve had during the week with patients and in my personal life that I’ve found significant.  I like to share them in hopes that you might find value in them and have something resonate with you in your life.  

A study I love.  During a study at Harvard in 1957, Dr. Curt Richter placed rats in a pool of water to test how long they could tread water.  On average they’d give up and sink after 15 minutes due to exhaustion.  Rather than let them drown, the researchers would pull them out, dry them off, let them rest for a few minutes and put them back in for a second round.  After only a brief rest and nearly drowning a minute before, the rats lasted an average of 60 HOURS before sinking again due to exhaustion.  The conclusion was that since the rats BELIEVED that they would eventually be rescued, they could push their bodies way past what they previously thought impossible.

I can promise you from personal experience that if you can convince yourself that you are strong and resilient, you can achieve far more than you thought possible.  Much like the rats, you will also find that your results are not slightly better than they were but dramatically so.  Most people give up on themselves at about 40% of their true output as a protective mechanism against discomfort.  When you make yourself push past that point, you will find that you have unlocked an entirely new level of your abilities that will take you places you once thought impossible.

Something I’d like to share.  In 2018, I was the head football coach for a team of eight-year-old boys.  Near the end of the season, a mom came to me and told me her son would not be able to finish our final two games.  I assumed it was an ankle sprain or something similar, but it was a rare form of liver cancer.  He left to go through treatments no one should have to face, especially a young child.  A year later he rejoined our team and almost a year to the day, his cancer returned.  At his final game, I played him more than usual and we beat our biggest rival in a game in which we were huge underdogs.  It was inspirational and we carried him off the field.  I think of that day often.

This little guy underwent a liver transplant a few years ago and seemed to be doing well.  However, I learned on Tuesday that his cancer returned aggressively last year, he is now in hospice care, and expected to pass within days.  I read his father’s description of fulfilling his son’s final wishes and it broke my heart.  I have watched my aunt and uncle, parents, and in-laws all lose children at early ages and know all too well the grief that comes with it.  It is cliched but please remember to take time with the people you care for most.  We get busy and stressed with things every day, but in the end the relationships we have with our family and friends are far more important.  Enjoy those you love and take nothing for granted.

Something I encounter often.  As a chiropractor, I encounter people daily that have been in pain for weeks, months, or even years.  Some of these people suffered serious injuries and some have challenging diseases or conditions, but those are rarer than you may think.  More commonly, I speak to people who have been in pain for long periods but have done nothing to deal with it.  They often come in frustrated that they haven’t gotten better but don’t correlate it with the fact they have done little to nothing to fix it.  Even worse, these cases are usually easy to help if a person is simply willing to do something about it.

I am not suggesting that the second you feel an ache or pain you need to run out to have it checked.  Some things are minor and will resolve easily but more serious things may require at least some assistance, especially those showing no signs of resolving on their own. Your body is a sophisticated machine with amazing healing and recuperative abilities when cared for properly.  However, much like a machine, if it isn’t running well, it may require someone to diagnose and fix it.  If you are suffering from something that is negatively impacting your life, it is worth going to a professional for help.  You may also be pleasantly surprised to discover that the solution to your long-standing issue may be much easier to attain than you thought. 

Something important from a recent seminar.  I attended a seminar last weekend that went into depth on all the specific scientific links between the brain (mind) and all aspects of our health.  These included complex and comprehensive details about how our minds can affect physiology, immune function, cancer cells, and more.  It’s too dense to write about here but suffice it to say, there are vast and proven links showing that your mind drastically affects how your body works.

What struck me most was how negative thoughts can damage the body.  Decreased immune function, pain patterns not tied to injury, proliferation of cancer cells, and more have all been proven to be affected when someone is chronically stressed, angry, and/or negative.  You can literally make yourself sick or worse from the way you think.  Since that is the case, the reverse will also be true.  When you maintain a positive outlook and manage stress as best you can, your body will respond by keeping you healthier and fighting off disease more effectively.  Youl have upwards of 60,000 thoughts per day, learn to use them to your advantage.

Some quotes I love.

“Your focus on hating yesterday is killing your opportunity to love tomorrow.” – Gary Vaynerchuck

“You have power over your mind, not outside events.  Realize this, and you will find strength.” – Marcus Aurelius

“The struggle you are facing is a test to see if you are truly committed to the life you say you want.” – Marc Bernacchi

Matt KenneyDr. Kenney’s Friday 5 Spot – August 16th
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Dr. Kenney’s Friday 5 Spot – August 11th

Dr. Kenney’s Friday 5 Spot

On Fridays I like to share experiences I’ve had during the week with patients and in my personal life that I’ve found significant.  I like to share them in hopes that you might find value in them and have something resonate with you in your life.  

A great lesson from my mentor.  I spent 6 years working with another Doctor of Chiropractic early in my career and he taught me many great lessons clinically, in business, finances, and more.  He told me one time, “If you are a good chiropractor, people will forget about you in 2 weeks.  However, if you are an AMAZING chiropractor, it’ll take them a month.”  The point was that you are always replaceable and so to never get a big head.

I believe this to be an important lesson, and one I continue to follow.  It is important to always remain grounded and not take ourselves too seriously.  Furthermore, it is important to realize that people around us can move on, get distracted, or change their preferences quickly.  As a result, we should always work hard, stay humble, and remember that peoples’ perception of us is never our responsibility.

A cool interaction.   I watched a YouTube video over the weekend about a guy running a 100-mile race.  He finished dead last and when he did finish, everyone except the race director and three of his friends were gone.  Even the finish line itself had been taken down already.  The video inspired me, and I left a nice comment below the video (I never do this) explaining why.  The following morning, I awoke to a message back from the runner in the video telling me how much my comments meant and that it made him feel proud.    

Often, we think to make a difference or help someone we must be famous or carry a certain status.  However, we can teach, motivate, and assist those around us when we simply give our best.  Our effort, perseverance, toughness, grit, and others can have a profound impact on those around us.  The point is that people will see something in you, and somewhere in their mind they may begin to think that perhaps they have it too.  Never be afraid to do your thing and do it to the very best of your ability.  Not only will it help you, but it will help those around you as well in ways you never imagined.    

A lesson I think of often.  In August of 2020, my oldest son dropped three passes in a football scrimmage which was very unlike him.  I could see at the end that he wanted to cry and that it was destroying his confidence.  On the drive home, I pepped him back up and told him problems that seem huge now, will be small in comparison later.  In fact, I told him before bed that evening that he’d probably experience something soon that would make a few dropped passes seem like nothing.  Unfortunately, I was right and as it turned out; his uncle (my brother-in-law) died unexpectedly 8 hours later at the age of 32. 

I have stresses like everyone else including running a business, providing for a large family, dealing with things when they break, and more.  Sometimes there are moments when I feel overwhelmed.  Anytime that happens, I remind myself of that advice I gave my son.  It reminds me of what is important and how quickly things can change.  Doing so helps me put things in perspective, re-focus and move forward with better energy and less stress. 

A great question to ask ourselves.  For those of us with children, we are obviously in a position of leadership.  As a result, our kids develop behaviors, habits, tendencies, and beliefs according to our example (far more than just our words).  A question I often ask myself is “Will this behavior look good on my grandchildren?” 

That question is a way of asking myself if the actions I am displaying to my kids are something I am comfortable with them eventually passing on to their children.  It is an excellent reminder that our actions can impact generations in either a positive or negative fashion.  None of us are going to be perfect, but keeping this in mind helps to keep the importance of our example and actions in the perspective it deserves.  If you would be proud to see your grandchild displaying your actions, continue them.  If not, change them.

Some quotes I love.

“When a leader walks in the room the followers feel intimidated, the snakes feel threatened, but the leaders…they feel inspired.” – Deion Sanders

“Self-confidence is the first requisite to great undertakings.” – Zig Ziglar

“If you’re afraid of failing, you won’t get very far.” – Steve Jobs

Matt KenneyDr. Kenney’s Friday 5 Spot – August 11th
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Dr. Kenney’s Friday 5 Spot – August 4th

Dr. Kenney’s Friday 5 Spot

On Fridays I like to share experiences I’ve had during the week with patients and in my personal life that I’ve found significant.  I like to share them in hopes that you might find value in them and have something resonate with you in your life.  

Something to consider.  In our technological age, the things we use regularly require software upgrades to run better and more efficiently.  This is true of phones, applications, printers, and more.  The updates are meant to deal with current issues, add features, and create more streamlined use.  I would argue that if this is so important to our technology, the same premise should apply to us as humans.

The people I admire most are always evolving.  They don’t change who they are, their principles or values (their hardware) but regularly adjust their processes, approaches, habits, and more (their software).  As we identify weaknesses, it makes sense that we create an approach to address them. Likewise, when we are strong in an area it helps to further refine it so that we can better use it to our advantage.  Change for the sake of change is irrelevant, but upgrading and improving how we do things is a crucial aspect of being the best version of ourselves.   

Something that resonated with me.  I was listening to one of my regular podcasts during which the hosts answered questions from listeners.  One listener asked if they had any advice on how to begin in the podcasting space.  One of the hosts remarked that he receives this question often and that people are often looking for super technical tips on equipment, etc.  Instead, he tells people “Be passionate about what you do and then actually begin doing it.”  I loved that advice for two reasons. 

First, without passion you can never endure challenging times.  Those are when we define ourselves as people and within all our endeavors.  Passion is often the best medicine to help us keep going when things become difficult.  Second, starting to do something may sound simple but is critical.  Too often, we spend all our time and bandwidth thinking about how we’ll do something and when the right time will be to begin.  We do that so much that we often forget to start.  Once we do get underway, we can begin identifying specific challenges and gaining experience to help us forge a path forward.  The clock of success does not start ticking until we get out there and start experiencing ups and downs for us to learn from. 

Something I remembered recently.  In February, I ran a 100-mile race.  As I finished my fourth loop there was a woman next to me that turned and remarked how amazing it was we’d finished the race.  I laughed and told her that I still had twenty miles yet to go.  I continued onward for my final lap, and about 5 minutes later I felt a hand on my shoulder.  That woman finished her race and then took the time to catch back up with me and offer me encouragement.  She told me I was tough, that I would make it, and gave me a nice pep talk.  I don’t know who she was, but it meant a lot that she took the time to do that.  My belief is that she probably spoke words to me that she would have found valuable in the same situation. 

In life, we often have opportunities to serve both these roles.  Sometimes, we are the broken ones in need of help.  In these instances, a word from a loved one or even a stranger can make all the difference in our resolve.  At other times, we are the ones that can provide those words.  Usually when we give those words to others, it is because we remember being in those same shoes.  It makes us more empathetic and willing to help.  There are times when you will need encouragement and others when you will bless others with your encouragement, embrace both. 

A phrase I do not like.  “Everything in moderation” is a phrase we are all familiar with.  Personally, it is one I don’t like.  In my experience, moderation is usually code for minimizing what we should be doing while overdoing what we shouldn’t.  It’s the perfect way to express that we are not committed to doing what is necessary to go to a higher level.

If you were to speak to any successful person they will use words like drive, commitment, discipline, hard work, consistency, and more.  None of those relate to moderation.  Conversely, if you speak to someone that is not as successful, they may use words like occasionally, sometimes, trying, hopefully, and others.  Those things are associated with moderation and being average.  If it’s worth doing, it is worth doing to the best of your ability.  Moderation has no role in achievement.

Some quotes I love.

“Life is a grindstone.  It can polish you or pulverize you depending on how you position yourself.” – Les Brown

“Consistency is what transforms average into excellence.”

“If it’s endurable, then endure it.  Stop complaining.” – Marcus Aurelius

“I can’t tell you the key to success, but the key to failure is trying to please everyone.” 

“Success won’t come from some big step you take in the future.  Success starts with small steps today.” – Craig Groeschel

Matt KenneyDr. Kenney’s Friday 5 Spot – August 4th
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Dr. Kenney’s Friday 5 Spot – July 28th

Dr. Kenney’s Friday 5 Spot

On Fridays I like to share experiences I’ve had during the week with patients and in my personal life that I’ve found significant.  I like to share them in hopes that you might find value in them and have something resonate with you in your life.  

Something I believe.  Last week, I had a young boy say “That looks easy” after I adjusted him and his family.  His mom was slightly embarrassed and told him not to say that, but I told him I loved it.  I explained to him that when you do something for a long time, have extensive training, and continue to improve your skills; what you do should look easy.  For example, when you think of your first day of work or the first time you tried a new hobby compared to how you operate years later, it should look much easier.  When I watch the Food Network, I feel as if I could be a great chef by adding citrus and a few pre-chopped ingredients to something because they make it look effortless.  This is obviously not the case.

Personally, I love to deal with people that make things look easy because to me this is a sign of competence, confidence, and experience.  Their level of skill puts me at ease, and I feel great using their services or taking their advice.  If someone ever tells you that what you do looks easy, take it as a compliment because it takes experience to have it look that way!

A business principle that applies to life.  There is a saying I love in business “If everyone is your market, then no one is your market.”  The meaning behind this is that if you try to please everyone, you will end up offering products or services that appeal to very few.  This has applications to daily life as well.

If you make it your goal to please everyone in your life, you are not likely to succeed.  Instead, you will end up being less authentic, creating weaker relationships, and feeling conflicted with your own behavior.  The simple fact is, not everyone will like you or how you operate.  I can tell you that in my case, my energy, drive, and personality traits cause many to gravitate toward me and others to get away from me.  In the end, we just must be our true selves and let things sort out how they may.  As in business, do not be afraid to refine your market because it will keep you focused on the people and things that truly matter rather than those that don’t. 

An important concept.  Leadership is a topic that is discussed but rarely understood.  Many believe leadership means being a domineering presence, the loudest voice, etc.  While that can be the case, my belief is that leadership is simply about making those around you better in some manner.  Therefore, great leaders are more prevalent than you may think. 

Each role in our lives allows us a chance to display leadership without making ourselves the center of attention.  In my case, being a husband, father, doctor, business owner, coach, Sunday school teacher, and volunteer with disabled children/adults all offer me opportunities to lead.  Yours may be different but opportunities will always present themselves if you only take the time to look for them.   The important thing is to give our best effort, be authentic, and adhere to our values and principles (which hopefully are sound).  This will develop trust, and before long, will create a dynamic where people look to us for help and our positive influence.  To me, that is what leadership is all about.

A question to always ask.  “Is this sustainable?”  This simple question is crucial yet often ignored.  When something is sustainable, it will allow us to do it repeatedly without causing damage or negative consequences.  If it is not sustainable, it will usually offer some form of temporary benefit now and negative impacts later.

This question should be at the top of all our minds.  If things are sustainable, you have found a great approach.  If not, then consider ways to alter your method so that you can begin gaining ground rather than losing it.  Finances, relationships, exercise, nutrition, mental habits, and more all should be evaluated regularly for their sustainability. 

Some quotes I love.

“Fear is a reaction.  Courage is a decision.” – Winston Churchill

“Be prepared to work always without applause.” – Ernest Hemingway

“Simple words to live by.  Be strong when you are weak.  Be brave when you are scared.  Be humble when you are victorious.  Be badass every day.”

“Healing also means taking an honest look at the role you play in your own suffering.” – Brandi MacDonald 

Matt KenneyDr. Kenney’s Friday 5 Spot – July 28th
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Dr. Kenney’s Friday 5 Spot – July 21st

Dr. Kenney’s Friday 5 Spot

On Fridays I like to share experiences I’ve had during the week with patients and in my personal life that I’ve found significant.  I like to share them in hopes that you might find value in them and have something resonate with you in your life.  

An important distinction.  The words “simple” and “easy” are often used interchangeably but are not the same.  For example, when I ran my 100-mile race in February, it was simple.  All I had to do was run and fuel my body as I went.  I promise you though, it was not easy.  In life, I believe that “easy” rarely brings benefits but “simple” always does.

When we seek out things that are easy, we are often going below our true standards.  In this instance we are seeking things or actions that do not challenge us or help us grow.  Conversely, seeking simplicity helps us to operate better.  When things are simple, they allow us to concentrate on our effort, performance, and succeeding in the long term.  It lets us forge a better path forward by de-cluttering things that may stand in our way.  An easy life won’t provide benefit, but a simple life will.

Something I believe.  None of us are perfect, we all have things that we could improve upon in terms of our habits, personality, and more.  Recognizing this is an important initial step.  Thereafter, there are two types of people you will encounter. 

The first are people that understand they need to be better but rather than look inward to do so, they take it out on others.  They berate, insult, mock, and complain about other people and things to avoid focusing on their shortcomings.  Second, are those that take the hard step of identifying something they don’t like about their behavior or outlook and begin making the effort to alter it.  This group understands that they are the solution to their problems and it’s on them to change.  If you are unhappy or displeased with some aspect of your life, be the type of person that addresses it head-on rather than becoming bitter and toxic to those around you.

Something that being a chiropractor has taught me.  I am in my 18th year of practice and have been blessed to treat tens of thousands of people utilizing my evaluations, decision-making, and adjustments.  Most of the time, this leads to impressive results and my patients are thrilled.  Other times, I utilize these exact methods and people don’t get the results they (or I) desired for them.  It always bothers me when I am unable to help someone, but it has taught me a valuable lesson.

All I can control is the effort I give and the treatment I provide.  Sometimes the results are amazing and life-changing and others, lackluster or non-existent.  How the body does or does not heal, is unfortunately not up to me.  Therefore, I maintain my focus on providing my best effort because that portion is under my control.  If I do that, I know I have done all I can to help the patient.  Everything in life works in this same fashion.  We cannot dictate the outcomes we get, but we can control the processes and effort we make to get there.  If you do your absolute best, most of the time you will see the results you want.  In the instances that you don’t, at least you know that you did all you could. 

A great reminder.  I saw a patient recently that I had not seen in years.  She’d been in pain and has some health issues she has begun to address.  Despite having these concerns, she was extremely excited to be dealing with them to get on a path to better health.  Even though the road to those solutions will be long, her excitement was contagious and provided a great reminder for me.

Your greatest achievements in life are going to be difficult.  They will take more time, effort, and sacrifice than you would ever realize.  Since it’s going to be such a tough journey, you may as well just find a reason to smile and enjoy it.  If you can do that, it will allow you to get started making progress.  That will then motivate you to continue the journey, and so on until you eventually attain your goal.  If you knew how hard the objective would be to achieve, you’d never start.  Thus, you may as well just get excited, get underway, and enjoy the process. 

Some quotes I love.

“Nobody is coming to save you.  Get up.  Be your own hero.”

“Don’t let the entire staircase overwhelm you.  Just focus on that first step.”

“But the thing is, even if I could go back, I wouldn’t belong there anymore.”

“There is nothing noble about being superior to your fellow men.  True nobility lies in being superior to your former self.” – Ernest Hemingway

“Never underestimate a man who picks self-improvement after being disrespected by people he loved.  He’ll conquer everything.”

Matt KenneyDr. Kenney’s Friday 5 Spot – July 21st
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Dr. Kenney’s Friday 5 Spot – July 14th

Dr. Kenney’s Friday 5 Spot

On Fridays I like to share experiences I’ve had during the week with patients and in my personal life that I’ve found significant.  I like to share them in hopes that you might find value in them and have something resonate with you in your life.  

Something that resonated with me.  I listened to someone speak this week about the differences between “trying and training.”  Trying is wanting a result but not outlining any specific steps to get there.  For example, saying that you want to try to eat better, exercise more, or behave differently is great but tends to fail the second it becomes even slightly challenging.  Training is when you have a goal that you are taking consistent action steps toward achieving.  You are following a plan toward an accomplishment, so you take the necessary steps in effort, equipment, and time management to get there.

If you have found yourself struggling on the path toward a goal, it is likely because you have only been “trying.”  You want it, but you aren’t putting the right plan of action into place to achieve it.  I have made this mistake at times throughout my lifetime.  Now, if something is important to me, I take a different path.  First, I outline my goal as specifically as possible and then break it down in terms of the time it will take, effort it will require, knowledge or equipment I will need, and more.  If you want amazing results, start training instead of trying. 

Something I believe.  In life, there is consumption and production.  Consumption is the things we buy from essentials to the toys we want to own or possess.  Production is what we create such as our personal impact on others, friendships, and relationships.  Our society puts a premium on consumption and minimizes production, but I believe there should be a better balance. 

Obviously, it is important to have the things we need from such as housing, food, and insurance. However, a focus on consumption brings our attention to attaining and flaunting things we really don’t need so that we can impress people we don’t care about.  I like technology, toys, and gadgets as much as most, but I try to maintain my focus on what I produce as a father, husband, doctor, friend, coach, and leader.  If I can manage to uplift those around me, that will be rewarding to me and valuable to my circle of influence.  Give thought to how much you produce in life versus what you consume.

An important distinction.  I spoke to someone recently going through tough times that referred to themselves as “broken.”  To me, becoming broken is when you refuse to go on, quit, and accept things as they are.  For that reason, most people even in their worst times are not broken, they’re just “banged up.”  That is the term I like to associate with times of great mental or physical pain or challenge that often seem insurmountable. 

I have suffered through some tough times in life.  When I was younger, I would allow them to control me and would essentially “break.”  As I got older, I faced harder and more serious challenges but had developed a different mindset.  Now, even in my worst times I have confidence that no matter what happens, I will go on.  I might have to deal with physical pain, sadness over the loss of someone I love, uncertainty, or some unforeseen circumstance; but I will continue onward and will not break.  The next time you feel life closing in on you, remind yourself that you will not be broken, you’re only banged up and it will get better somehow. 

Something I’m excited for.  I have a friend that recently opened a chiropractic practice.  He is an excellent adjuster and clinically competent but is new in business and struggling.  He’d asked me for guidance, and I told him we would start having a weekly phone or Zoom meeting to discuss business ideas. 

I get excited to collaborate with people that are younger in their careers than me because I enjoy sharing the knowledge I have attained.  Teaching aspects of my life or talents I possess to someone else helps me gain a greater grasp and expertise of the material.  Furthermore, it energizes me when I interact with people that are just beginning to climb the ladder to success.  Usually, they are more willing to try new things, consider different approaches, and have time and energy to burn.  That carries over to me by reminding me of how far I have come, rekindling some of the passion and drive it took to get there, and helping me to gain new insights.  If you are new to an endeavor, seek out someone with experience because I promise, it will benefit both of you.

Some quotes I love.

“When you arise in the morning, think of what a privilege it is to be alive, to think, to enjoy, to love.” – Marcus Aurelius

“You can’t help where you were born and you may not have much to say about where you die, but you can and you should try to pass the days in between as a good man.”

“Learning the distinction between ‘help’ and ‘rescue’ is one of the most important lessons in your child’s course on responsibility.” – Brandi MacDonald

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Dr. Kenney’s Friday 5 Spot – June 30th

Dr. Kenney’s Friday 5 Spot

On Fridays I like to share experiences I’ve had during the week with patients and in my personal life that I’ve found significant.  I like to share them in hopes that you might find value in them and have something resonate with you in your life.  

An incredible experience.  Last week, my oldest son got his license and on Thursday he picked me up so we could grab his brother from football practice and grab some dinner.  It was raining as he drove but within one or two minutes, it morphed into the craziest weather and driving conditions I have ever witnessed.  As it turned out, we were driving less than a ½ mile from the tornado and were enduring over 100 mph winds, torrential rain, hail, minimal visibility, downed trees, and debris being thrown all around us.   We had no choice but to continue driving, so I calmly began giving my son instructions on exactly what to do.  He remained completely calm and after about 4 miles, we found a spot where we could pull over and I took over driving.  My son in the backseat was freaked out but my oldest son and I were excited, full of adrenaline, and high fiving! 

Something I have learned throughout my life is that the worst thing you can do in an intense situation is panic.  If I had freaked out, my son would have as well, and we would have been in even more danger.  The best thing to do in a crisis is to take a breath and begin with the first necessary step.  Once that happens, you move on to the next, and so on.  Keeping focused on the tasks helps avoid a spiraling of emotions that leads to wasted energy and time.  My son stayed as cool as could be in a stressful situation and I’m certain he will carry that lesson with him forever. 

Something important.  There is a saying that if you spend enough time in a library, you will eventually read a book.  I believe this same principle has applications to daily life as well.  Specifically, if you hear things from those around you long enough, you will eventually believe them.  When people tell you how terrible you are, you will believe them after a point.  Conversely, when people build you up, you are likely to gain confidence and feel you can accomplish great things.

For that reason, it is crucial to be careful of who you let into your life, inner circle, and head space.  You will never be able to completely avoid negative people.  However, the discipline is to learn to not let those people in too close where they can convince you that you’re less than you are.  The people you want around are those that value similar principles as you, have morals, are not threatened by your success, and build your confidence. 

A recent reminder.  Last weekend I was sitting at my son’s football practice and talking to my-longtime assistant coach (our sons have now moved up to a new league that we don’t coach in).   We were discussing a heartbreaking loss we had in the playoffs several years ago and how we should have won the title that year.  Then we went on to discuss how great it was to win consecutive titles over the past two seasons and see our players blossom like they have.  The interesting part was that we both agreed that had we won that heartbreaking game a few years back, we probably would not have kept coaching.

That win would have felt like a good ending point for our team and most likely we all would have gone our separate ways and played/coached in different leagues.  However, the loss kept us together, gave us a reason to return, and made us hungrier.  Ultimately, that made us work harder to become better coaches, players, and teammates.  This was a reminder of how important losses in life can be.  They never feel good, but they cause us to alter our approach, get stronger, increase our efforts, and so much more.  It can be argued that in the end, the losses make us far stronger than the wins.  If you have suffered a setback, allow it to strengthen you and understand it will help you somehow down the line.

Something I think everyone should know.  I hear from patients and friends all the time that are going through challenges.  These can be in relationships, business, mental, physical, and so much more.  Sometimes they’ll comment that they don’t know why it’s happening to them.  The simple answer is because it happens to all of us.  Therefore, I believe two things must happen. 

First, you must expect that you will face adversity.  It’s not personal, but it will inevitably happen so expect a fight in some fashion.  Second, since you’re expecting a fight, you should prepare accordingly.  This means creating the strongest body and mind you possibly can.  Personally, I utilize exercise, difficult races, mentally dauting tasks, nutrition, family time, and faith to build myself into a form where I feel confident I can face anything.  Certainly, I hope everything will go smoothly, but if it doesn’t; I won’t be surprised or unprepared. 

Some quotes I love.

“The quickest way to succeed is to start now and figure it out as you go.  You can’t learn to drive in a parked car.”

“If you want to be successful, you need to be bad, then you need to be good.  Then when you’re good, you need to fail.  And then when you fail, you’re going to figure it out.” – Nikola Jokic

“You should not honor men more than truth.” – Plato

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Dr. Kenney’s Friday 5 Spot – June 23rd

Dr. Kenney’s Friday 5 Spot

On Fridays I like to share experiences I’ve had during the week with patients and in my personal life that I’ve found significant.  I like to share them in hopes that you might find value in them and have something resonate with you in your life.  

Some important lessons.  When I run, I often seek out hills (or mountains) to enhance my training.  Hills are more difficult and put higher demands on the body in terms of oxygen requirements, muscles, and joints.  There are three lessons I have gained from this training that I think apply to daily life because hills are just another name for challenges.

First, the fear or anxiety of climbing a hill defeats more people than the ascent itself.  If we believe the challenge is too great, we psych ourselves out and fail before we begin.  Second, it is crucial to attack the hill with whatever you have.  Sometimes that will be speed, other times the slowest of shuffles.  The point is, give it whatever you have in the moment.  Finally, conquering the hill makes you instantly stronger and more resilient.  Proving to yourself you can conquer a challenge makes you more powerful going forward. 

A recent observation.  “They say” is something I hear in conversations often.  For example, “They say it’s good for you” or “They say you shouldn’t do this.”  We’ve all heard this when talking to others, we’ve probably even said it ourselves.  

What I have come to believe is that “They say” is usually another way of expressing that a person has no idea what they’re talking about and has not taken any time to try and find out.  Most times, it ends up being a piece of a headline, some stereotypical viewpoint, or badly outdated way of thinking.  Depending on the situation or topic, this can be significant.  I tend to notice this most often in topics that concern health and important events transpiring around us.  These should require us to do research to form opinions and strategies to help us deal with them but often we don’t.  Nothing is more important than our health and livelihoods, so take the time to get informed and don’t trust what “they say.”

A question I ask myself daily.  I have always enjoyed learning about miliary tactics, conflicts, and warrior cultures for a variety of reasons.  Something that has always stood out to me is how some of the biggest battles are often fought for the smallest of territories.  In instances such as these, the question always becomes whether ground is being gained or lost in the battle because every foot matters.  I like to ask this same question of myself in all endeavors of my daily life.

We are in constant battle with our health, businesses, habits, relationship building, faith, and so much more.   When we make more good decisions than bad, we take a small step forward.  If we can do this daily, the small steps turn into major changes.  If not, then we begin to lose momentum and our results suffer.  In every aspect of your life, give thought to what specific actions will lead to small gains in ground and repeat those things as often as possible.

An important concept.  As a chiropractor, my specialty is obviously assisting people with my adjustments.  However, I am often asked why I don’t add in nutrition, supplements, various modalities, and other things to assist my patients.  In no way am I against those other things, but I choose to keep my focus in one area.  The analogy I use to explain this is that you can either be a diner or a fine dining restaurant.

A diner will offer you hundreds of choices for your meal.  The variety is amazing, but the quality will suffer, and nothing will stand out.  Conversely, a fine dining restaurant will have a limited menu so that everything can be of the highest quality and amazing.  I don’t want to be the type of chiropractor that offers everything and then delivers lackluster care because the treatment is what people need most from me.  Thus, my goal is to focus my attention only on delivering the best chiropractic care possible.  If you have a gift or talent you want to shine, don’t dilute it with too many other things.  Be the fine-dining establishment instead of the diner.

Some quotes I love.

“The thing about mental toughness is that it continually comes down to a choice.  You can’t blame others for your reactions to setbacks and failures.  When you choose to take responsibility for everything in your life, you reach a new level of mental strength.” – Sally McRae

“Warriors are not the ones who always win but they are the ones who always fight.”

“People will throw stones at you.  Don’t throw them back, collect them and build an empire.”

“Self-control makes the man.  A man without discipline is a boy full of reactions, rather than a man of good actions.” – Greek Proverb

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Dr. Kenney’s Friday 5 Spot – June 16th

Dr. Kenney’s Friday 5 Spot

On Fridays I like to share experiences I’ve had during the week with patients and in my personal life that I’ve found significant.  I like to share them in hopes that you might find value in them and have something resonate with you in your life.  

A lesson I’ve learned from sports.  Whether playing or coaching, a constant lesson I have learned and taught is to always keep moving.  When you stand still, you become easy for an opponent to deal with, take yourself out of the action, and make it nearly impossible to create a positive outcome.  Conversely, when you are in motion, you become unpredictable and more likely to make a good play.  The point is that you must keep moving to keep up with the action around you.  Life is no different.

In life, one of the worst things we can do is to stop moving or become stagnant.  Examples include lack of exercise, not seeking new knowledge, accepting bad habits, and falsely believing we cannot change.  Rather than doing that, we want to remain in motion through exercise, reading, interacting with new people, attempting new things, and more.  Whether it’s in athletics or life, make sure you keep moving because your results depend on it.

Something to remember.  I had several conversations this week in which people expressed to me why they didn’t want to do something challenging because they preferred something easier.  For example, “I don’t like the taste of water, so I drink a lot of soda.” or “I’d rather sleep in than do a workout.”  These people are expressing displeasure with pursuing a habit or activity that would help them while comparing it to something that is counterproductive.  I think of this like comparing apples to footballs, they are in no way similar.

As a doctor and expert in exercise and nutrition, I have encountered this way of thinking countless times over the years.  We all enjoy relaxation, rest, and recreational activities that are fun. However, those things are not designed to make us better or lead to higher levels of achievement.  The habits and activities that create growth and success are difficult.  They challenge us mentally, physically, and in how we budget our time.  If you want to succeed, you will need to embrace doing the hard things.  Do not waste energy comparing things that elevate you and bring you out of your comfort zone to things that do not.

A recent (and funny) reminder for me.  One of my quirks is that I do not believe in using an umbrella.  I find them foolish and refuse to own or use one.  My family knows this, and we have a lot of fun with it.  At my church, I am a greeter and welcome people at the front door.  Recently, it was pouring rain as people were arriving for the service and I was asked to stand in the rain with an umbrella and walk people to the front door.  I agreed, and so for the first time in decades, I used an umbrella and my family made sure to take plenty of pictures of this.

I walked in dozens of moms and older women, and they were all extremely grateful and told me how polite I was.  Though I wish my family had not taken pictures of this, it made me feel better to help than it would have to watch people get soaked to the bone.  As simple and silly as this is, it was a reminder that sometimes the right move is to humble ourselves and help those around us.

Something that resonated with me.  I listened to a talk this week and the speaker mentioned grapes.  He talked about how grapes are grown and then eaten or sold for a small amount of money.  However, the grapes that are crushed can become wine.  Those grapes transform from something that is common and inexpensive into something that sells for hundreds or thousands of dollars, and can be served to kings, queens, and dignitaries.  The grapes are the same, but what the grapes go through changes everything. 

Life works the same way as these grapes.  Look to anyone who is successful in any field or endeavor.  I guarantee they have had to go through an incredible struggle to get to that point.  Just like the grapes, they’ve been crushed but turn into something more special and valuable.  Throughout your life, you will inevitably be broken down and suffer at times.  Those times may hurt, but if you utilize them properly, you will be able to turn them into something better and far greater than you imagined. 

Some quotes I love.

“Don’t expect to build up the weak by pulling down the strong.” – Calvin Coolidge

“Getting over a painful experience is much like crossing the monkey bars.  You have to let go at some point in order to move forward.” – C.S. Lewis

“Understand people by their actions and you will never be fooled by their words.”

“Reward loyalty with loyalty and disloyalty with distance.” – Brandi MacDonald

“The truth has no defense against a fool determined to believe a lie.” – Mark Twain

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