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Dr. Kenney’s Friday 5 Spot – April 28th

Dr. Kenney’s Friday 5 Spot

On Fridays I like to share experiences I’ve had during the week with patients and in my personal life that I’ve found significant.  I like to share them in hopes that you might find value in them and have something resonate with you in your life.  

Something I hear often.  I would estimate that at least 4-5 times per month, I speak to a man that tells me he doesn’t take care of himself like he once did because he’s married and/or no longer an athlete.  The implication being that staying in shape is no longer relevant once you’re in a long-term relationship or not actively participating in athletics.  You will not be surprised to hear that I do not care for this way of thinking. 

When I hear this from other men, it always sounds like a form of giving up and complacency to me.  Caring for yourself physically and nutritionally goes far beyond esthetic benefits.  It is a form of self-respect that you are displaying (or not) to the rest of the world.  When a person takes diligent care of themselves, they are more likely to enjoy the people and events around them more because they are happier, more confident, and energetic.  For these reasons, anytime I hear someone tell me they no longer intend to care for themselves, I always urge them to reconsider. 

Something that motivates me.  There is a quote from Vince Lombardi I have loved for years, “Fatigue makes cowards of us all.”  As we get tired, we lose our drive, focus, motivation, level of commitment, and more.  I’ve seen this countless times in athletics, but it has applications to daily life as well.

For me, the potential for fatigue comes in the form of excessive stress, poor nutrition, lack of body movement, exhausting relationships, negativity, too much social media, and the like.  That fatigue has the potential to make me a “coward” with my spouse, children, patients, and players I coach.  Specifically, I would not have the energy to go the extra mile for them when I’m needed most.  Therefore, to avoid fatigue I do my best to eat well, exercise often, spend time around those people and groups that uplift me, and avoid staring into my screen and pointlessly scrolling too often.   Consider how fatigue might be affecting your life, output, and relationships and take steps to improve it.

A good reminder.  Earlier this week I was speaking with some friends about an organization we are all familiar with.  Each of us cares about this organization but unfortunately, all had recent experiences with them centering around lack of follow through, not honoring commitments, and a lack of appreciation for those trying to help.  My friends attempted to make excuses for this poor behavior and asked if I agreed.  I did not.

Principles and integrity cost a business nothing.  You can have no employees or money in the bank and still be able to follow through on your word and say thank you to someone helping you.  When this is not done, it is a giant red flag.  To me, this is a sign that there are problems at the top and things are drifting off course.  It may not be noticeable immediately, but eventually will show in terms of attendance and/or finances.  Forgetting who you are and not prioritizing the people and things important to you is a path to the destruction of any business (or person). 

Something I believe.  When someone says that they are competitive, there can often be a negative connotation associated with it.  As if it means you automatically overturn a table if you don’t win at Monopoly or freak out if you make a mistake.  To me, that is being overly emotional and irrational.  Being competitive is much different and I believe crucial.

Competition in my eyes involves being able to put forth your best effort in whatever you do.  It raises the stakes and forces you to consider what is required to improve upon past performance.  This can be true in competitive sports, work, or a run around the block.  Being competitive trains you to have higher standards and expectations for yourself.  Furthermore, it creates more comfort in challenging yourself because you understand you can always improve, even if you are to fall short in something.  Regardless of what it is, be competitive in how you approach anything because you will find it leads to greater outcomes.   

Some quotes I love.

“You have within you right now, everything you need to deal with whatever the world can throw at you.” – Brian Tracy

“In the long run, we only hit what we aim at.” – Henry David Thoreau

“Kill them with success and bury them with a smile.” – Usain Bolt

“Eating junk food is so common that eating healthy is labelled as dieting.” – Jonathan Goodman

“Hard choices, easy life.  Easy choices, hard life.” – Jerzy Gregorek

Matt KenneyDr. Kenney’s Friday 5 Spot – April 28th
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Dr. Kenney’s Friday 5 Spot – April 21st

Dr. Kenney’s Friday 5 Spot

On Fridays I like to share experiences I’ve had during the week with patients and in my personal life that I’ve found significant.  I like to share them in hopes that you might find value in them and have something resonate with you in your life.  

Something that inspired me.  On Friday night, my wife and I volunteered at a Starry Night Prom event.  This is a wonderful event thrown for people with physical and/or mental handicaps that is structured like a prom with dressing up, a red-carpet walk, sit down dinner, dancing, karaoke, and more.  My wife and I were “buddies” that were paired up with a date for the evening.  It was incredibly special.

I was inspired to see a group of people that have undoubtedly suffered many challenges, have amazing moments for themselves.  Watching people walk the red carpet with smiles on their faces, high fiving, twirling, waving, and more was emotional in a beautiful way.  All night I saw people enjoying moments that were important to them on the dance floor, singing karaoke, and more.  It fueled my soul to see some special people enjoying a little taste of the spotlight.  It’s nice to have exceptional moments for ourselves but it was more amazing to see such deserving people also have wonderful moments!

Something I believe.  I was consulted this week by two people regarding how best to help some of their clients with adhering to better nutrition and exercise.  These particular people are in their 40’s and often fail to follow the advice they paid to receive.  I was asked whether I thought they needed to be encouraged constantly to get “wins throughout the day” or whether I thought they needed tough love.

In instances where mistakes are being made but the effort is high, I am a fan of encouragement.  People in this category can benefit tremendously from a little confidence boost.  Sometimes, praising someone’s effort but fine-tuning their approach can make all the difference.  Conversely, when effort is low, excuses are high, and people are failing to follow through on their responsibilities, I never find encouragement effective.  Those times call for truth and tough love because if a person is not motivated to help themselves, nothing anyone says can help.  In these cases, I have found the most value in having people consider reasons they may be self-sabotaging.  Depending on the effort, a pat on the back may be the right strategy while other times, a kick in the butt is better.

A lesson I’ve learned.  There will be times in your life when you will be in pain, exhausted, grief stricken, lonely, bored, and/or worse.  You will find yourself on the ropes mentally and physically and these are likely to be some of the most brutal times you ever experience.  This will be when you most want to give up but when it is most important to keep battling.

I have learned through the loss of friends and family members (decades before their time), divorce, financial difficulties, painful races, and more; there are times when things will seem hopeless, senseless, and overwhelming.  When you get there, you only have two choices, keep going or quit. If you give up, it will get worse.  If you decide to keep going, it won’t feel amazing right away.  It’ll feel like a chore, but you must “embrace the suck” because every second you keep going will make you stronger and teach you a lesson.  Battling through the lowest points in life gave me confidence that I cannot and will not be broken.  If you are facing a tough time in your life, keep fighting because it will teach you the same.

Something I have found effective.  Have you ever had times in your life when you can’t seem to get out of your own head?  When you worry about all your problems day and night or over-analyze things to the point where you begin to annoy yourself?  I certainly have.  There are numerous ways to help with this, but I believe one of the most effective is finding a way to help others.

When you seek to help others, it provides a healthier perspective.  It reminds us that we are not the center of the world and that our problems may not be quite as large as we thought.  More importantly, it gives a feeling of satisfaction that you’ve made a difference in someone else’s life or circumstances.  Last Friday, I had a lot on my mind and was quieter than usual (I’m rarely quiet or have a bad day).  It was not my best day but after two minutes of volunteering my time at the Starry Night event that evening, my outlook was transformed.  I did not spend a second thinking of my “problems” for those five hours, and it got me back on track.  Even if you are going through a tough time yourself, try to help someone else.  It will make a tremendous and positive difference in your outlook. 

Some quotes I love.

“A bad system will beat a good person every time.” – W. Edwards Deming

“Procrastination is opportunity’s assassin.” – Victor Kaim

“The biggest asset in the world is your mindset.” – Gary Vaynerchuk

“Don’t fear failure.  Fear being in the exact same place next year as you are today.” – Elissa Robertson

Matt KenneyDr. Kenney’s Friday 5 Spot – April 21st
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Dr. Kenney’s Friday 5 Spot – April 14th

Dr. Kenney’s Friday 5 Spot

On Fridays I like to share experiences I’ve had during the week with patients and in my personal life that I’ve found significant.  I like to share them in hopes that you might find value in them and have something resonate with you in your life.  

A concept from coaching that applies to life.  When I coach my football team, one of the things my assistant and I try to teach the kids is how to deal with bad plays.  Even the best players make mistakes, so it becomes crucial to deal with them in a constructive way.  We teach them to quickly evaluate the error and whether it was mental or physical so they can try to avoid it going forward.  More importantly, we teach them to have a short memory by forgetting the bad play and instantly getting focused on the next play.  This helps make sure one play doesn’t turn into two, a bad game, or lack of confidence.

This simple concept has profound applications in life.  When things go wrong (and they will), the key is to accept them and move on as quickly as possible.  Learn what you can from any errors you make and use that information going forward.  Making a mistake is never an excuse to stop trying, reduce your effort, or allow passion or enthusiasm to fade.  When you screw up, dust yourself off and get back in the fight.

A question we should all ask ourselves.  Anyone with gardening experience will know that for flowers to grow properly they will require the proper nutrients from sunlight, soil, and water.  Without the proper balance, nothing will grow as efficiently or effectively as possible.  As humans, we require our nutrients from what we ingest, how we treat our bodies physically, and what we put into our minds.

Therefore, an important question is what nutrients are you putting into your bodies from these areas?  Examples of poor nutrients are heavily processed and non-nutritious foods, alcohol, smoking, lack of exercise, heavy consumption of television and social media, avoiding challenges, poor relationships, and more.  Conversely, a healthy diet, avoiding toxic substances, exercising regularly, quality time with people that make you better, and avoiding excessive screen time will all stimulate your body and mind to perform better.  There is not a single thing in your life that will not be improved simply by increasing the good “nutrients” and decreasing the things that rob you of them. 

Something that helps me.  When I played football in high school and in college, I must have heard the phrase “the eye in the sky doesn’t lie” a million times.  This refers to the process of games, (and sometimes practices) being recorded, evaluated by the coaches, and then shown in front of the team.  Regardless of excuses, the “eye” always shows proof of effort and performance.  It was always nice to have personal highlights pointed out by the coaches, but the memorable times were when the coaches showed my embarrassing moments and total misses.  Those hurt, but they made me want to adjust, so they never happened again.

Having absorbed this concept from football, I find it helpful to apply it to my daily life.  I like to imagine that the eye in the sky is always on me as I treat patients, interact with my wife and children, coach my team, exercise/train, compete in races, and more.  My goal is to behave in a way that if I were to see those actions replayed to me on a screen, I would be proud.  Sometimes that happens effortlessly, while other times I would be mortified to see myself.  Imagining that all my actions could be played back to me has assisted me in striving for greater integrity and quality in everything I do.  What would the eye in the sky say about you?

A concept I utilize.  I have encountered many losses in my life.  These can be defeats in sports, business ventures or decisions that didn’t go right, coaching blunders, failures in races, and many more.  Regardless of the failure, I always like to do what I call “getting back in the lab.”  This means I do an honest assessment of what went wrong, how I failed, and why I failed.  Then, just as a scientist would, I begin to fix those mistakes by introducing innovative ideas, controlling variables, and eliminating things that proved not to be useful.  This is done alone with no fanfare.

Like anyone, I hate to fail.  That said, I really love the process of getting “back in the lab.” It is an opportunity to heal my wounds, restore my confidence, discover new approaches, and re-dedicate myself to meeting my goal.  I always find it empowering and I would estimate 90% of my greatest triumphs in life have come after I’ve done this.  If you have failed to succeed in something important to you, do not hide from it.  Accept your failure and get to work on how you’ll do better the next time by working through it on your own. 

Some quotes I love.

“Out of every one hundred men, ten shouldn’t even be there, eighty are just targets, nine are the real fighters, and we are lucky to have them, for they make the battle. Ah, but the one, one is a warrior, and he will bring the others back.” – Heraclitus

“You cannot see your reflection in boiling water.  Just like you cannot see truth in a state of anger.  You only find clarity when you are calm.”

“Remember, when you are dead, you do not know you are dead.  It is only painful for others.  The same applies when you are stupid.” – Ricky Gervais

“Victims make excuses.  Leaders deliver results.” – Robin Sharma

“You become unstoppable when you fall in love with the process.  Not just the progress.” – Marcus Rice

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Dr. Kenney’s Friday 5 Spot – April 7th

Dr. Kenney’s Friday 5 Spot

On Fridays I like to share experiences I’ve had during the week with patients and in my personal life that I’ve found significant.  I like to share them in hopes that you might find value in them and have something resonate with you in your life.  

Something I believe.  There is someone that I have been doing business with for the better part of a decade.  Our styles are opposite, and dealing with him is never something I look forward to (but I don’t have a choice).  He has an unwillingness to accept responsibility and often expects others to do things for him.  Worse, when he does fulfill his responsibilities, he wants praise (and usually praises himself).  This type of behavior is not unique to this person and is increasingly common in our social media society.  We don’t want blame or accountability if we don’t hold up our end of a bargain, but expect a parade when we do. 

It’s crucial to accept responsibility for all our actions.  That means if we have a role to play, we do so regardless of circumstances or feelings.  Following through and doing what we promise is crucial.  We can take pride in our effort but should not concern ourselves with seeking adulation merely for doing what we said we would.  A mindset focused on accountability will create far better outcomes than one that seeks praise.

Something important.  My wife and I had been attending a church together since 2014 and were pleased with it.  Over the past few months, we began to feel some of the messaging seemed timid and not in alignment with some of the values previously expressed.  As a result, we decided to try another church at the recommendation of a friend.  There, we have found stronger and more principled messaging with actions that seemed to back it up. 

We are living in crazy times, I believe there is a greater need for strength now more than ever.  As a result, I have little time or patience for giving my energy to anything that involves being passive, meek, weak, or not in alignment with my principles.  To be the father, husband, doctor, coach, etc. that I should be, I can only seek out people, places, and activities that challenge me to be better.  Give thought to the people and groups you associate with.  Ask yourself whether these individuals are helping you grow stronger or not. 

Advice I agreed with.  I was listening to Dr. Peter Attia on the Joe Rogan podcast earlier this week.  He mentioned that for decades, he struggled with his own self-talk.  He was highly critical of everything he did, and when he would make a mistake, would harshly berate himself.  Eventually he came to realize that this was counter-productive to success of any kind.

To fix this issue, a therapist recommended he try a change of tactic when a mistake or crisis occurred.  Rather than getting upset and wasting energy on a tantrum, he suggested he speak to himself like he would a best friend.  When we speak to a friend, we tend to want to be kinder, gentler, and more constructive because we know it will help more than shouting.  There is no reason we cannot or should not offer ourselves this same courtesy.  Dr. Attia mentioned that this simple change led to amazing changes in productivity for him and I have had similar results over the years.  Try speaking to yourself as you would a great friend, it will make a huge difference. 

Something I am thankful for.  I have coached football since 2017 for boys (and several girls) as young as four and as old as thirteen.  Without hesitation, I can say that I have learned more life lessons coaching those young kids than in almost anything else I have ever done.  There have been instances where I have been too intense, too emotional, or failed to understand their perspective.  I have learned from those mistakes by altering my approach.  Other times, I have seen my energy, motivation tactics, or calming voice help them.  That taught me to continue using those methods.  All the triumphs and mistakes have helped me become a better leader, communicator, motivator, and example.

The greatest lesson coaching has taught me is that when you are in a position of leadership, those around you will mirror who you are.  If you value or emphasize the wrong things, so will they.  Thus, you must constantly consider what and how you are teaching, and whether your personal behavior backs it up or not.  It is the ultimate form of accountability.  Coaching has truly been a blessing for me.  It brought some of my flaws to light and helped me address them.  Likewise, it showed me strengths I didn’t realize I possessed and allowed me to grow them.  In short, coaching has helped me become a better man while doing something I enjoy.    Whether you are a coach or not, consider how your behavior is impacting those around you.   Learn from it, grow from it, and become an even better version of yourself. 

Some quotes I love.

“Don’t cry to quit, cry to keep going.” – Eric Thomas

“The soul always knows how to heal itself.  The challenge is to silence the mind.” – Caroline Myss

“Failure is an option.  It’s what you do with the failure that makes you who you are.  Our failures mold us.  I have failed at several things in my life.  What sets some of us apart, is that when we fail, we can’t sleep at night.  It haunts us until we have our time at redemption.  – David Goggins

“Don’t ‘kill them with kindness.’  Torture them with success.”

“The truth doesn’t require participation in order to exist.  Bullsh** does.”

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Dr. Kenney’s Friday 5 Spot – March 31st

Dr. Kenney’s Friday 5 Spot

On Fridays I like to share experiences I’ve had during the week with patients and in my personal life that I’ve found significant.  I like to share them in hopes that you might find value in them and have something resonate with you in your life.  

A good lesson.  Years ago, I recall someone giving me advice on cooking.  First, they told me that the last thing I should be doing is to turn the burners on.  That was because if I blew past the necessary preparatory steps and skipped to the end, things would get missed or rushed and destroy the dish.  The other advice was that I was not yet experienced enough to improvise.  This was given to mean that I had not mastered the basics enough to make it up as I went.  Instead, I  needed to follow specific recipes to gain some of that information.  These are solid lessons for cooking, but I believe apply to life as well.

Good outcomes are a process.  They require the right amount of certain things (hard work, consistency, etc.) and less of others (poor habits, laziness, etc.).  As they are followed, you gain knowledge that allows you to improve and refine them in the future.  Picking a dish you want to make and following a recipe is no different than selecting a goal and following the necessary steps to achieve it.

An interesting interaction.  Several weeks ago, I wrote that I watch motivational videos on YouTube in the mornings to give me an extra boost that I use for my workout, morning routine, and workday.  I spoke to someone this week that told me they tried doing the same but that it “hasn’t helped.”  When I asked some follow up questions as to their routine, it turned out they were doing extraordinarily little.  They were expecting the motivation to carry them toward greater things.

Motivation is not magic, it will not make you do anything.  I like to think of motivation as the smallest of sparks that nudges you in a direction, but from there it is our job to follow through with action.  Motivation is fleeting and unpredictable and thus unreliable.  What can be relied upon is routine, consistency, and discipline.  Once those tenets are in place, only then can you use motivation to enhance them. 

Something I’ve reflected on.  Last month, I completed my 100-mile race as you know.  The race was set up to have five, twenty-mile laps.  As I neared the end of my 4th lap at mile 80, there were seven other runners finishing their 4th loop like me.  I could overhear pieces of conversations some were having.  Based on only hearing a sentence or two, I believed I knew who would quit and who would continue.  Of the eight of us, I thought six would quit once we finished the lap and I was correct. 

Though we were all literally at the same point in the race, some saw its completion as too daunting.  Those were the people I heard speaking negatively.  As they ended that lap, I watched some sit down and cover up with blankets and knew they were done.  The two of us that did not quit actually said nothing, and at the end of the lap, simply grabbed our supplies and headed back out.  The lesson I took from this is that sometimes the best thing you can do is not allow yourself any option other than to continue onward and keep battling.  You may not always succeed, but you will never look back with the  regret of quitting.          

Something that has helped me.  For years, I have conditioned my mind to remind me to “do extra.”  In other words, I want to do more (even just slightly more) than what is required or expected.  I utilize this premise in my physical endeavors with distance, time, and/or repetitions.  I also use it in my patient interactions and treatments with an extra tidbit of advice, following up to see if there are other issues I may be able to help with, or even just offering an encouraging word or two.  Regardless of what it is, the goal is to try to get slightly better in whatever I’m doing, each time I attempt it.  Training yourself to seek small, incremental improvements in any endeavor can lead to enormous progress. 

Some quotes I love.

“You don’t need more time.  You need less distractions.” – Jen Cohen

“Nothing will hurt more than knowing that you quit on yourself.  So don’t.” – Dr. Josh Handt

 “If you focus on the things you have, you’ll always have enough.  If you focus on the things you don’t have, you’ll never have enough.” 

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Dr. Kenney’s Friday 5 Spot – March 24th

Dr. Kenney’s Friday 5 Spot

On Fridays I like to share experiences I’ve had during the week with patients and in my personal life that I’ve found significant.  I like to share them in hopes that you might find value in them and have something resonate with you in your life.  

A lesson I’ve never forgotten.  In my early twenties, I asked someone I respected to help me with my nutrition.  He agreed, and we sat down with pen and paper so he could teach me the basics.  It was not fancy but it was effective, and from that moment on I have used what he taught me.  What I remember vividly is him telling me that the information he was providing was not complicated and would work for everyone.  However, he also explained that for every ten people he gave the information, only one would follow and stick with it.

Having worked with thousands of patients and clients since that time, I can tell you that he was correct.  With nutrition, exercise, or any form of self-care that requires consistency and discipline, most will not stick with it.  People make excuses, get lazy, become complacent, or find any number of other methods of self-sabotage to halt their progress.  If you are struggling in these areas, give thought to whether the problem is with what you’re doing or if it’s you that is perhaps the culprit.  Results may not come easy, but they are possible if you figure out what to do, then actually do it.

Something I believe.  Twice over the past month I have been at events where the speaker talked about some critical issues and the need to take immediate action.  In both instances, he promised to provide action steps to help improve those issues but never did.  This got me thinking about something I find vital.

I believe when it comes to the most important things in our lives such as family, health, finances, spirituality, freedoms, and more; we do not have the luxury of time. These areas require immediate and constant attention because the stakes are so high.  There is no time to waste being timid or weak.  If it’s something that matters, action must be taken as soon as possible.  If it involves something or someone you care about, be desperate, deliberate, and relentless in what you do so that you don’t waste opportunities or time.   

A good reminder for me.  I was out for a run this week when I inadvertently reminded myself of an important lesson.  Along the trails I run, there are several points where you can either take a shorter or longer route depending on the path taken.  In other words, you can go one way and make it 3 miles or go another and make it 6.  As I approached such a point in the run, I found my mind telling me “Take the shorter path, you trained hard for 6 months and ran a 100 mile race last month.”  In other words, my mind was trying to make things easier and using past actions to justify it.

This is a dangerous way of thinking because it creates complacency. You become willing to take your foot off the gas, give yourself credit for the past, and ignore the importance of the present (and future).  When I found myself thinking this way, I made sure I tagged on the extra miles.  I did so to remind myself that what I’ve accomplished in the past no longer matters.  What I achieve today and going forward should remain my only focus.  This lesson applies to everything in life. 

Something I loved.  I was speaking with a patient this week that is successful in real estate.  She mentioned she’d just left a conference with other high performers in her industry and how much those meetings inspire and help her to progress in her endeavors. She referred to those people as “humble bad asses” and that resonated with me.

Most people I look up to in business, life, athletics, and more are not the type to talk about themselves and tell you how great they are.  Instead, they hold themselves to high standards and quietly go about following them with no regard to who notices.  People like this are most concerned with their processes and outcomes rather than accolades or attention.  Humble bad asses are the epitome of those who would rather show you what they are about than tell you.  If there is something you are trying to achieve, focus on working hard, remaining consistent, and targeting specific outcomes.  If you do that, credit will come later. 

Some quotes I love.

“Be careful when you blindly follow the masses.  Sometimes the M is silent.”

“Difference between school and life:  In school you’re taught a lesson and then given a test.  In life you’re given a test that teaches you a lesson.” – Joe De Sena

“Quality is not an act; it is a habit.” – Aristotle

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Dr. Kenney’s Friday 5 Spot – March 17th

Dr. Kenney’s Friday 5 Spot

On Fridays I like to share experiences I’ve had during the week with patients and in my personal life that I’ve found significant.  I like to share them in hopes that you might find value in them and have something resonate with you in your life.  

Something that inspired me.  Last Friday night, my wife and I volunteered at an “All-Stars Event.”  This is an evening where individuals with physical and/or mental handicaps are paired with a volunteer (a “buddy”) for an evening of fun so their parents and/or caretakers can have a few hours to themselves.  I went excited to help but left inspired. 

What inspired me was the overall vibe I got from those with the disabilities.  They remained completely in the moment, excited about small things, polite, kind, and never complained.  Whether getting pumped to sing karaoke, play a game, attempt an activity, or just spend time around people that were also enjoying themselves; the attitudes I saw were amazing.  Smiling and persevering no matter the circumstance is something I believe in.  I saw that on full display last Friday from those amazing people.

Something that impressed me.  At that same event on Friday, lots of the volunteers were high school age.  Many volunteered in part to receive credit toward the service project hours that most schools require for graduation.  When I heard they were there for that reason, a part of me thought perhaps they would give a half-hearted effort, check their phones constantly, or otherwise just go through the motions.  I am happy to say, that was not the case.

Instead, I saw a group of young people that gave an incredible effort while having fun and helping.  No one was afraid to look foolish singing, dancing, or playing, and I witnessed some wonderful connections being made between the volunteers and the attendees.  I saw energy and patience on display throughout the evening.  I believe that if you are going to “be in” on any endeavor, you should be “all in.”  Those young people did exactly that and I was proud to see it. 

A good question to ask yourself.  “Who or what am I loyal to?”  This question is crucial because it helps identify who and what is important to you.  These can be people, outcomes, goals, causes, or more.  Then, it allows you to evaluate whether the way you’re spending your time and directing your energy is supporting those loyalties or not. 

The people/things you are loyal toward should remain your focus and help you avoid distractions.  For example, being loyal to your children means spending time with them, teaching them, and helping to better their lives.  If your actions strengthen that, then you’re in sync with that loyalty.  Conversely, if you identified health as a loyalty but are not careful with what you eat, drink, or how you move; you are not supporting it.  Give thought to where your loyalties lie, then back them up through action. 

A lesson that has stuck with me.  One year out of chiropractic school, I joined a successful practice in Connecticut.  The owner/chiropractor was an amazing doctor and businessman who became my mentor.  Joining the office of such an accomplished doctor so early in my career made my deficiencies as a chiropractic physician noticeable.  As a result, it was initially a struggle to get patients to come see me or stay with me for treatment.  It was quite humbling. 

Rather than complain or make excuses, I focused on improving my craft (and the other doctor greatly helped me).  My skills began to improve, slowly my confidence increased, and I began to expand my patient base.  By the time I left that practice for Colorado six year later, I was equally as busy as the other doctor and had won two awards as best chiropractor in the county.  I learned that when you encounter adversity to never give up or lose faith in yourself.  Instead, learn what you can each day (often from mistakes), persevere, and understand that growth is a process.  That will allow you to address weaknesses, double down on strengths, and discover your own unique style.  I continue to utilize that lesson professionally, personally, in my physical endeavors, as a coach, and more.   

Some quotes I love.

“A mistake that makes you humble is better than an achievement that makes you arrogant.”

“Strength grows in the moments when you think you can’t go on but keep going anyway.”

“If you’re not dreaming big for yourself, who’s doing it for you?”  Gary Vaynerchuck

“Before you can win, you have to believe you are worthy.” – Mike Ditka

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Dr. Kenney’s Friday 5 Spot – March 10th

Dr. Kenney’s Friday 5 Spot

On Fridays I like to share experiences I’ve had during the week with patients and in my personal life that I’ve found significant.  I like to share them in hopes that you might find value in them and have something resonate with you in your life.  

Something I believe.  Each one of us will experience tough times in our lives, sometimes through no fault of our own.  Someone we love passes away or gets sick, we lose a job, COVID destroys a new business, or any number of possibilities.  When such things happen, it is important to realize that stuff can just happen that we did not need, expect, or deserve.

While certain occurrences may not be our fault, how we react to them is absolutely our responsibility.  I interact with people constantly that have been dealt a tough hand but are unwilling to let it go.  They simply cannot move past their challenges and often become bitter and unmotivated as a result.  On the other side of the coin are those that face terribly challenging times but become motivated to create something amazing as a result.  If/when something bad happens, do all you can to move forward with purpose and motivation.  Getting knocked down is not your fault, staying down is. 

An important question.  “Are you interested or committed?”  This is worth asking yourself in any endeavor because it sets forth a precedent.  If you’re interested in something, you will give a level of effort that meets that threshold.  For example, you will do something only as long as it’s fun, new, different, or holding your attention.  This entails a minimal effort usually for a small duration of time.

When you are committed to something, you are promising yourself that you will pursue the goal regardless of emotion or circumstance.  A committed marital partner vows to be there for their spouse no matter what, being committed to a goal is no different.  Signs of commitment (in my opinion) include high level of effort, taking personal responsibility, learning from mistakes, asking questions, taking risks, being unafraid to fail, not being guided by feelings, and more.  Someone that is interested hangs around until it’s no longer fun, a committed person stays until the job is done successfully.

An important concept.  We’ve all been on airplanes as the safety instructions are announced.  What I have always found interesting is the part about putting your own oxygen mask on first before helping others in an emergency.  This is another way of telling people to take care of themselves so they can better assist those around them.  I believe this same principle to be true as it pertains to our health and well-being in daily life.

If you are in a bad place mentally or physically; do you think you can effectively help those around you?  Often, we feel selfish for pursuing better health and outcomes for ourselves, but this should not be the case.  Caring for yourself through exercise, good nutrition, spirituality, and better mental health (just to name a few); creates a better version of you.  This translates into being a stronger parent, sibling, friend, co-worker, coach, businessperson, leader, and more.  The greater a person becomes, the more they can help others.  For this reason, self-care is not selfish, it is imperative.

An important concept.  The standards we set forth are crucial.  These include how we behave, the way we do things, our actions, what we allow or disallow, our non-negotiables and more.  They are our roadmap for every activity we perform and relationship we have.  My personal belief is that our standards serve as a ladder, either they bring us higher or drop us lower.

Doing things only to get by, meeting a bare minimum, or tolerating poor behavior from ourselves/others are examples of low standards.  Behaving in this fashion tends to bring about even lower standards later as we get comfortable setting the bar low.  Higher standards revolve around diligence, not settling, maximum effort, and being happy with how we treat/are treated by others.  High standards tend to elevate further as we see results and we the value of holding ourselves even more accountable.  Give thought to the standards you set forth and whether they are bringing you up or down the ladder.

Some quotes I love.

“Winners don’t do different things.  They do things differently.” – Shiv Khera

“Failure is the condiment that gives success its flavor.” – Truman Capote

“The more you wake up to who you are, the more unbearable it becomes to be who you are not.” – Aubrey Marcus

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Dr. Kenney’s Friday 5 Spot – March 3rd

Dr. Kenney’s Friday 5 Spot

On Fridays I like to share experiences I’ve had during the week with patients and in my personal life that I’ve found significant.  I like to share them in hopes that you might find value in them and have something resonate with you in your life.  

Something I loved.  A couple of months ago, one of our cherished family friends passed away at the age of 60 from cancer.  She was a wonderful woman with three great, adult children and a husband with whom she had an amazing relationship right up until the last moment. 

This week, her husband reached out to my wife asking for help with his nutrition and exercise.  His reason for doing so as he explained it, is that he wanted to get to Heaven and look great for his wife.  To me, that was incredibly special.  We all deal with tragedy in different ways, some more constructively than others.  I found it inspirational that he wanted to honor his wife by caring for himself better.  Through experience, I can also promise that once you have the right “why”, results come much easier.

Something that may surprise you.  The first time I ran more than a mile was in 2010.  By 2014 I had taken part in an obstacle course race that lasted 24 hours and three months later, I began running ultramarathons.  I’ve completed many races, often in pain and under tough conditions.  I’m frequently complimented on my tenacity, mental and physical toughness.  I tell you this because you may be surprised to learn that during the entire time I have been doing these runs and races, I suffered from “imposter syndrome.”  Somehow, I always felt I wasn’t good enough and that I was a fraud.  Even as I neared the finish of my 100-mile race last month, similar thoughts began to enter my mind.  Then, something occurred to me that changed everything. 

If someone had told me 13 years ago that if I started running long distances it would help get me through a divorce, starting over in life, being a single dad, opening businesses, tragically losing two loved ones, and more; I would not have been concerned about my speed or placement within races.  I’m a regular guy that tested myself with some of the toughest challenges and races I could find.  Sometimes I succeeded, often I failed, but it truly made me a stronger person.  I finally realized that my racing was never about times, medals, or finishes.  It gave me blessings far greater than I could have dreamed or can explain, and I should have realized it sooner.  After more than a decade, I no longer feel like an imposter. 

An important question to ask yourself.  Have you ever considered the amount of people affected by the decisions you make?  Who would be harmed or embarrassed by your poor decisions?  How many would take pride in your good choices and accomplishments?  These are all ways of asking yourself “Who do I represent?”

In my case, the answer always begins with my wife and four children.  Then come my parents, in-laws, and friends.  I also feel a powerful desire to represent the boys I coach in football because I want to be an example for them.  Likewise, I want to behave in a manner that would make my patients and profession proud.  The list goes on, and all are important to me.  Whenever I need to push harder, I remind myself who I am representing, and it provides more fuel for my tank.  Likewise, it helps reinforce my principles as I want to behave in a way that honors those I care for.

Something common.  My daughter is coming up on two and a half years old.  Unlike her three brothers, she can be content to sit around and relax, whereas my sons tend to be in constant motion.  As such, when she is outside playing with us and exerting herself, she often quickly says “daddy I’m pretty tired” in the most dramatic fashion imaginable.  She’s not used to the feeling of the (slightly) accelerated heartbeat and heavier breathing we all get from exertional activities.  I tell her “You’re fine baby” and let her keep playing until she forgets about it.

This same thing happens to non-adolescents as well.  When people are unaccustomed to challenging their bodies, they often assume something is wrong and want to quit once an activity gets slightly tough and their heartrate rises.  The reality is they are de-conditioned and out of shape.  The best way to deal with this is by sticking it out.  Your body is a highly capable machine.  Exerting it today will make it more adaptable to that level of exertion tomorrow and even more thereafter.  Remember this the next time you are breathing heavy and want to quit an activity.

Some quotes I love.

“Things never to complain about:  1.  How tired you are.  2.  The amount of work that needs done.  3.  The weather.  Everyone is tired every day, there is always work to do, and we have no control over the weather.”  – Dustin Myers

“A warrior is an average person with laser focus.” – Bruce Lee

“If the truth makes you feel uncomfortable, don’t blame the truth.  Blame the lie that made you feel comfortable.” – Diamond Dallas Page

“Those who have swords and know how to use them but keep them sheathed, will inherit the world.”  – Jordan Peterson

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Dr. Kenney’s Friday 5 Spot – February 24th

Dr. Kenney’s Friday 5 Spot

On Fridays I like to share experiences I’ve had during the week with patients and in my personal life that I’ve found significant.  I like to share them in hopes that you might find value in them and have something resonate with you in your life.  

Something I encounter often.  As many of you know, my wife and I have a nutrition and exercise business.  Working with people on what they’re eating and how they’re working out, we encounter many of the same issues repeatedly.  Without question, one of the most common is “I don’t have the time.”  Though we all get busy, there is something I tend to notice about the use of time.  The highest performing people I know get a ton accomplished in a day.  As such, they are regimented, focused, and if you were to ask them what they did at a certain point in their day, most would be able to tell you exactly what they did. 

With clients that tell us they are too busy to eat well and/or exercise, we ask them to account for how they spend their day so we can offer suggestions.  Commonly, the clients that tell us how packed their schedules are unable to offer specifics.  For example, we might hear “well I had to bring my son to school” or “I had meetings” but there is no breakdown of how long things last or time available to them.  They are usually reluctant to consider breaks in their schedule, unwilling to condense activities, and devote hours to things that should take minutes.  How we spend our time reflects our priorities.  Take a look at how you’re spending your time and whether it’s helping or hurting your goals. 

An analogy I like.  My 4-year-old son recently got a $1 bill.  He was so excited that he brought it to preschool and told anyone who would listen that he was going to go to the store and buy everything he wanted with his “monies.”  As we all know, one dollar will not create any shopping sprees. 

This made me think of people that want better businesses, bodies, relationships, and results but devote so little to accomplishing those things.  They’re giving one-dollar efforts but expecting million-dollar results.  That way of thinking is analogous to what my son expected to happen with a single dollar.  If you desire something better in your personal or professional life, you must put in the time and effort to make it happen.

Something that works for me.  Every morning before I come to work, I listen to a motivational video on YouTube.  I do so not because I lack drive or motivation, but because I want to hear words from people that inspire me.   Some of my favorites include Eric Thomas, David Goggins, Les Brown, Jordan Peterson, Inky Johnson, and Jocko Willink.  Five to ten minutes of some type of motivational video gives me an extra boost of energy that I direct toward my patients, business, to-do list, physical endeavors, and more.  It helps me expand my work ethic, desire, confidence, and drive.  Find someone or something that uplifts you, listen to it early in your day, and watch how your day progresses.

An important concept.  Something my wife and I teach our clients is the difference between exercise and being active.  Both are great but it’s important to understand how they are different.  Exercise will include higher intensity activities.  These include weightlifting, running, cycling, aerobic classes, and more.  Examples of being active are less intense endeavors such as walking, stretching, yard work, certain type of yoga, and more. 

The reason we teach the difference is that many clients expect to lose weight, get stronger, or re-shape their bodies by just being “active.”  While it is admirable to keep the body moving in that fashion, it will not create the impetus for the body to make major changes.  That is why I always recommend that people carve out a certain number of days per week for vigorous exercise and then on the other days (or at another point in the day) focus on actively recovering with things like walking, stretching, or yard work.  Utilizing both exercise and being active provides your body the stimulus to make changes while also providing the recovery it needs to do so. 

Some quotes I love.

“If you think the price of winning is too high, wait until you get the bill for regret.”

“Trying tends to be a momentary attempt, while training is an ongoing action.” 

“If you look at the people in your circle and don’t get inspired, then you don’t have a circle.  You have a cage.”

“It’s what you learn after you know it all that counts.” – John Wooden

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